Friday, May 18, 2007

Love? Or just Sex? Whats the point?

The office is the place to find love, researchers say

If it’s love you’re after, the office is the place to be, researchers say.

A poll of women found that 61 per cent of relationships begin at work.

About a third of those polled admitted having sex in the office, while a quarter of attached women confessed to cheating with a colleague.

The study by New Woman magazine found that 94 per cent flirt in the office, and more than half have ended up in bed with a colleague at some point.

Eight out of ten admits fantasising about a co-worker. And email is a popular flirting tool – 63 per cent have tried it.

The poll, which questioned women aged an average of 28, also shed light on attitudes towards sexual harassment.

Although nine out of ten women said a male colleague has made a pass at them, only 2 per cent complained. In contrast, 47 per cent were flattered, 33 per cent thought it was ‘a laugh’ and 18 per cent arranged a date.

Editor Lauren Libbert said: "So many people find love at work because it’s an ideal environment for slow-burn relationships – the male colleague on the other side of the desk may not be a pin-up but he grows on you."

More than half sleep with a coworker at some point. So is it really impossible to have a faithful wife? Or just one who works? What does this tell us guys who want to have a real marriage. Is it saying it just isn't possible in today's culture? Saying just join the Fing crowd cuz you aren't going to get any better anyways?

And this

According to Peggy Vaughan, author of "The Monogamy Myth," first published in 1989 by Newmarket Press (third edition published 2003).
Conservative infedelity statistics estimate that "60 percent of men and 40 percent of women will have an extramarital affair. These figures are even more significant when we consider the total number of marriages involved, since it's unlikely that all the men and women having affairs happen to be married to each other. If even half of the women having affairs (or 20 percent) are married to men not included in the 60 percent having affairs, then at least one partner will have an affair in approximately 80 percent of all marriages. With this many marriages affected, it's unreasonable to think affairs are due only to the failures and shortcomings of individual husbands or wives."

Note that the above adultery statistics of the prevalence of affairs were made more than a decade ago; so based on changes in society during the intervening years, the current percentage of the population who have had affairs is probably somewhat HIGHER. For instance, the continuing increase of women in the workplace and the increase of women having affairs on the Internet means that the numbers for women having affairs is probably similar to those for men�about 60%.