Monday, November 14, 2005

Depression In Men

found an interesting article from the LA Times on "male-based depression"

Some depressed men may be plagued by impotence and loss of sexual interest, but others may become wildly promiscuous. Many complain of depression’s physical symptoms — sleep troubles, fatigue, headaches or stomach distress — without ever discerning their psychological source. Compared with women suffering depression, depressed men are more likely to behave recklessly, drink heavily or take drugs, drive fast or seek out confrontation.

Depressed men may bully and bluster and accuse those around them of failing them. For many men, anger — a masculine emotion that one “manages” rather than succumbs to — is a mask for deep mental anguish. “That’s their way of weeping,” says psychologist William Pollack, director of the Centers for Men and Young Men at McLean Hospital in suburban Boston.
“It’s embarrassing to be sad,” he says. “And the difference between being sad and lazy is hard to distinguish.”

Neither tears nor indolence, it seems, are manly virtues.
“Depression equals vulnerability and shame and lack of functioning. That takes away the man’s masculinity — and for men, that takes away the sense of self,” says Pollack, author of “Real Boys: Rescuing Our Sons from the Myths of Boyhood.” In the American ethos, Pollack says, “a man who’s vulnerable is not even a man any more. . . . It’s the equivalent of being psychologically castrated.”

...behave recklessly, ... drive fast or seek out confrontation. check check and check. Its an issue that doesnt ever quite go away but it isnt really a problem for me anymore. Hope none of you knows anyone who is depressed, but this is good info to have.